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Out of the Broom Closet: Telling Family and Friends
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I was raised to believe 2 things in my religion:
1) There is one god, and,
2) I must worship this god alone.
I had never felt any connection to Christianity, and I didn't see myself as very spiritual. I am a huge reader and I read a series of books and the main character was a Wiccan. I had no idea what that was, so I went online and researched it. I found that when I read about it, I felt a deep connection to it. I started practicing in secret and I almost felt like I had to. I mean, my family is Christian, and so are my extended family. I figured they would take it horribly if I told them. I started hinting about it, and I never lied about it. (It's not like they asked if I still believed in their God, but I didn't think I would lie if they did.)
One day, I was reading about Wicca online again, to get ideas for a ritual I wanted to do, when my older sister found me. "Are you a Wiccan?" she asked almost condescendingly. I wanted to hit her. She can be so rude.
"Yes, I am, " I didn't lie, or try to soften my answer. She asked, so I told her. I had just about a month ago figured out I was Bi-sexual, and I really thought that if I told her that she would probably say that I was too young and I couldn’t possibly know that for sure yet. I felt like she was going to say the same for this. I was so right.
"This is probably a phase. You are to young… you have to be a vegetarian… mom will kill you when she finds out”! Yes, she said all this and way more. I tried to tell her I was solitary so I could be any age. I told her Wicca was open about eating habits. I told her mom would accept me. I told her I was serious about this. She wouldn't listen.
She said I should research other religions -- which I had! I wasn't stupid! -- and I had already done a lot, but she made it sound like I was ignorant in this subject. I blew up and yelled at her. When I looked in her face, I saw she wanted to slap me.
When my mom got home that day from work, I went right up to her and told her. She hugged me and accepted my religion. But I think she thinks it's a phase like my older sis does. When I told my little sister, she had no idea what Wicca was. I never told my dad, but I bet my mom did. He hasn't brought it up to me yet though, so I have no idea. My parents know I'm bi, but my sisters don't and still have no idea. I knew my parents are more open than most, but it feels like they just brushed it away.
The next step was to tell my friends. I only told three, but I plan on telling one more person when school starts. The first was my best friend. We were born ten days apart and have been friends since then. I don't know what I would do if she didn't accept it. But when I told her, she had no idea what Wicca was. When I explained it, she took it in and told me she thought it was cool! We are still friends.
My next friend was open-minded and into this type of stuff, too! She isn't Wiccan, but we do talk about magick and other things a lot and so she is my friend who believes me. Then my next friend was just as open-minded! I still can’t believe I didn't lose any friends, but I am thankful I didn't.
Since it is summer, I haven't told anyone else at school. But, on Facebook, my profile says I'm a Wiccan, so the entire grade could know. I have no idea!
My family doesn't talk about it much, but they know I'm practicing Wicca. I have bought some things for Wicca, and my mother was totally cool about it…except when she asked if I was going to smoke my herbs. That was a little weird, but I get it. She just wants what is best for me.
My older sister and I have talked about Wicca a few times. She still thinks I am too young, and every time she brings that up, I mention how I'm not in a coven, and some people are raised Wiccan. I still think she doesn't get it yet. I have tried to explain Wicca to my younger sister, but I think she is still a little confused. I plan on educating her over time. I haven't lost any friends over this yet, but who knows?
I am in need of more materials, so I am saving for that. I hope I can ask mom to drive me the twenty-two minutes to get to the metaphysical store. It just seems like a long way to go for some candles and incense burners.
Some advice for teen Wiccans would be:
1) Tell your parents first. It is easier to do that first.
2) Never yell; it may push away people you care about. Stay calm.
3) Explain what Wicca is before going into rants about how your family is ignorant. I know from personal experience
4) Don't let anyone figure it out until you are ready. I hated that I didn't have any time to plan a family meting to discuss this.
5) Never let your family make you feel bad. It really is not their decision what is right or wrong.
I wish you all the best of luck in this, and I hope you have an easier time than most.
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