Men and the Goddess
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Author: Mystie-Raven [a WitchVox Sponsor]
Posted: August 25th. 2018
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I am currently teaching classes in recognition of The Feminine Divine, and incorporating this concept with the religion of Wicca; well, any Wiccan or Witch knows it would be impossible not to incorporate Her, as She is foundational to this path. I add this for emphasis because honoring the Goddess, a/k/a The Feminine Divine as Deity, is what our Western culture is severely missing.
The topic of this essay is:
“Why Would a Man Search for the Goddess?”
Interview with Tim Ward in the book,
“Voices of the Sacred Feminine” by Rev. Dr. Karen Tate
Thoughts by Mentor Priestess: Mystie Raven-Sky
When I discovered the book mentioned above, I thought to send an email directly to Dr. Tate to inquire more about how to purchase several at one time. I was impressed and excited at her quick response to my email inquiry, and within two weeks I had the books, all personally signed by her. In addition, I was pleasantly surprised that she offered to address my seekers, via Skype, when we feel we are ready for such an honorable invitation. Unbelievable!
As one of my required reading books for seekers of Earth Based Religions and how to bring Goddess into our lives, “Voices of the Sacred Feminine” is filled with forward moving, Western Culture essays and interviews related to the Goddess. The one interview that greatly captured my attention was with Tim Ward, “Why Would a Man Search for the Goddess?” Having raised two boys, who are now young men, and having been married to their father for 27 years, has caused me to reflect on how my sons view the world. We raised them in a Christian environment, all the while I did my best to teach and offer hints of honoring Mother Earth, which, in many ways, is “Pagan-esque”. My heart and soul are warmed, knowing that my boys honor and respect who I have become as a Wiccan Mentor and Priestess of Wicca.
I was affirmed of my subtle influences on my boys by actions they took in different situations. First, to my surprise, the high school my boys attended had a history class that taught these youngsters about many philosophies and religions. My favorite homework project my oldest son created was a Buddhist Path modeled by the board game, “Monopoly”. Any Monopoly diehard will understand the Four Corners on the board and will appreciate his creativity. “GO” meant you have started your life journey. “Jail” was for Karmic Lessons and Learning. “Just Visiting” was for Meditation and Reflection. "Free Parking" meant you have achieved Enlightenment, or Nirvana. So clever!
Second, my youngest son had a pet chameleon named, ”Rags”. He took very good care of this delicate creature that required a specific temperature range with a heating lamp, and live, tasty snacks for food. One day I came home from work and my son was in the back yard, near the area where we had many bushes and a large area of open dirt. He was sitting on the ground and looked like he was in deep thought. I observed him for a moment then noticed he was silently weeping, so I gently approached him to see if he was okay. I noticed he had his religious cross on a small mound of dirt, surrounded by stones and flowers. He looked up at me and said, “Rags died”. My heart broke for him and I knelt by his side so we could cry together as we said goodbye to Rags.
Another one of my favorite memories is when my youngest son came home from school with one of his friends while I was cleansing the house with a sage stick and Celtic music filled the air with tribal sounds and vibrations. His friend asked, “What’s your mom doing?” Without a thought my son replied, “She’s just cleansing our house. She does that sometimes”. With a look of wonderment, his friend simply replied, “Oh, okay”, and they continued upstairs to do their homework.
Tim mentions that Jesus and Buddha taught people to turn away from the world and to resist the ways of the flesh to enter the Kingdom of God, and/or that ridding ourselves of worldly desires is the way to true happiness. When Tim traveled to India, he saw statues of the Dark Goddess “Kali” in many places. He became curious about her, and felt her reaching to the darkest places of his masculinity like a lost lover or an orphaned child.
Though we may learn many great teachings from Buddha and Jesus of the Christian faith (rather than the Gnostic Jesus) , I, too, was confused by the turning away of the desires of the flesh and other worldly desires. I know I am not greedy or lustful, however, growing up I wondered why are we on this Earth if we are to deny our true nature and the pleasures of life.
The religion of Wicca, the Gnostic Gospels, the Eastern Jesus who was known as Issa, allow us to receive the gifts of the Earth, the intimacies of our bodies, the pleasures and joys of life, so long as we do not harm others or ourselves. They teach that all these gifts are available to us for healing purposes; yes, including our sexuality.
I especially love when Tim writes about his lesson from Kali when he asks one of her devotees about her Mother and Destroyer aspects and her four arms: the upper right is raised in blessing, the lower right is extended with Her palm out offering a gift, but the upper left is holding a machete and the lower left a freshly severed human head. Tim asks how one gets the blessing and escapes the machete. The devotee said that is not the point and that the blessing is only won when you accept both sides of Kali including, pain, sorrow loss and death. This scenario took me back to a class, in which I enrolled at Regis University: “Death and Dying”. I learned that death is an aspect we Westerners have a hard time accepting and celebrating.
I have often heard that many Native American Indian cultures say that it is difficult to walk in both worlds at the same time. To be able to appreciate living on Earth and to travel to the “other side” to learn from our Ancestors who have crossed over, can be challenging, but it can be mastered. There is a belief that those who have this “gift” of hearing and seeing are sometimes considered crazy people! Remember in the New Testament of the Bible, Jesus says, “let those who have ears hear, and those who have eyes see”. I believe that Jesus the Healer was trying to teach this very thing. And centuries ago, Kings relied on male and female sages to lead their armies; in Celtic Traditions women taught their daughters the art of telepathic communication so they could know of their well-being, and they were also taught how to “leave their bodies” and go to their “Nemeton” (a carefully constructed visual safe-haven) , if they were violated so they could not feel the pain by their attacker.
Tim goes on to say that men have a deep need to connect with women, but like women, they have also been taught that women are the cause of their suffering, starting with Eve. WOW! What a concept – I never thought of a man’s perspective on this! He talks about how things are out of sync with the opposite sex because of sexual frustration, resentment, anxiety and despair. Tim says it is all too easy for men to blame women for all their suffering, yet for years, women have borne the brunt of this blame. Tim says he realized that he had a deep anger towards women until his trip to India.
I am currently in a beautiful relationship with a man who was raised in Catholicism and educated in Catholic schools most of his life. I love that he is a Geologist and has walked and connected with the Earth for his studies. We are very well aligned in this area where I see the healing properties of the beautiful gifts from Mother Earth (i.e. crystals and gemstones, making candles for candle magick, etc.) ; he teaches me the science behind the crystalline development over millions of years of evolution. So fascinating! Though, for many years now, he has considered himself to be Agnostic, he is deeply spiritual and is intrigued by my spirituality.
Here is where we are deeply connected, which strengthens our love for one another.
As for Tim’s discoveries, I could go on and on about his confusion about women. His writings made me feel deeply sad for men (as well as women) that Patriarchal Societies have taught such harshness towards women. It is of great consequence that relationships are so difficult for many couples. However, I will say that I am grateful to have heard a man’s perspective of this disheartening quandary. I do believe that in very slow steps, we are moving in the right direction. My choice is to lead by example by forgiving the past, and by not being vengeful and hostile towards monotheistic religions and patriarchy. I choose to heal with love and to continue teaching others about the Feminine Divine.
Location: Denver, Colorado
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