To Hex or not to Hex?
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Author: Don Waterhawk [a WitchVox Sponsor]
Posted: October 11th. 1999
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What helps you to decide when to Hex or bind? Essentially to me, these can be the same, if a person is blinded by their emotions enough. I know it seems weird, when most people consider a Hex as something a Witch does to another person for intent of hurt, after being hurt themselves, and a Witch preventing another person from doing a certain act or acts after being hurt by that person. To me, both have the potential to end up with the same end: a Witch is preventing one person from doing something. To me, morally or karmically this is wrong!
So, why am I writing this? Because I caught myself wondering whether to bind my stepfather from "hurting" my mother and myself. He's never touched either of us, but his selfishness infringes upon us, and that is really putting it lightly. I have not the brain cells to count the screaming matches I witnessed between my mother and him, mostly because he wasn't getting what he wanted. This not only emotionally hurt him, but also myself as it was never easy listening to the only father figure in your life yelling at your mother that you were useless. Even now, at my 19th year, it still continues. So, you say, why not just bind him? Because how do I know when the boundaries are crossed from protecting myself and hurting another?
A binding can't hurt the person you bind? Yes it can, but we may not realize it straight away, or at all, until it happens. It's like saying a dam will only help us, it won't bring harm, yet every dam I know of has forced relocation of animals. Small and insignificant? No. Any intervention on natural order can have a tremendous affect.
So still, I sit and I ponder and ponder. I'm not saying that anyone who has hexed or bind another is wrongÖin most cases I'm sure it's has been all for the positive, what I am saying is that I'm a kind of person who acts with my heart and emotions first. I guess I'm writing this more to get my feelings out clearly before making any decision on this, as this is a serious decision.
Whether you decide to bind a person or hex a person, either way you bind them to you. You must take care of that person, in the karmic way. You must make sure the poppet or catalyst used is also "intact". That it is still astrally "in one piece", otherwise it won't work, and can end up with results worse originally intended. What if when you break the binding so you can get on with your life, the person reverts back to the way they were, and someone who thought they loved this person gets a shock.
Oh course, when you bind/hex someone, getting on with your life is not possible until the spell is broken. In Phyllis Curott's book Book of Shadows (Broadway Books, 1998), she tells of how she helped a friend do a binding on her friend's husband to prevent him, now out of jail, attacking her again. She had to keep the poppet she'd made in the freezer until his own Karma bit him on the arse, which it did, hard, and then, and only then, did she "break the spell". This is what I mean, you can't just cast a binding spell, and throw away the poppet, it must be kept until you feel they have got "what they deserved".
Some people I have heard say the simple act of binding someone is good "therapy". What happens if 6 months later, you don't feel they've got what they deserved, so hence the spell must be kept up, and you have not got over what happened? Sometimes it's a better spell if you simply ask the God and Goddess for help to be a strong enough person to get past the problem, rather than the life consuming act of binding another person to you? In my opinion, it is when you are really hurt that this spell is performed. Right now, I don't believe I am that hurt, as I have always been able to get over it, so I will simply pray for the strength to handle his abuse, and to get over it as well.
It's easy to say "When I do bind/hex a person", or "When I did bind/hex a person, he/she was really bad. He/she deserved it." But who's to say we are the people to judge? WHO ARE WE TO JUDGE? Has always been my question throughout all of society, whether it be when Christians outlawed witchcraft, British colonists judge white to be a superior race or politicians deciding that the death penalty was okay, it was arrogant of the collective "us" to believe totally and assuredly that "we" were right. The same case may also apply here.
Of course if someone rapes a woman, and is let off scott free, because of a legal bungle, I WOULD bind that person, or at the very least, ask the Goddess and God to send him his Karmic rewards ASAP! But remember, in my case, it really isn't that black and white.
When you read this article, don't dismiss it as crap, but actually think, and realize that your actions will have bearing on other people, and acting without thought will be paid for dearly. I don't think I will bind my stepfather, but rather learn from the experiences, and maybe he can learn from his simply by using another method. Lack of communication, help my mother to leave him, whatever. In our lives, there are other ways to allow people's Karma to come back and bite them on the ass, and it won't do dippy to you.
Sometimes it just takes time and a little inner strength.
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