Hearing The Music And Dancing The Dance
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Author: Lady Wolfwind
Posted: June 16th. 2013
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Life changes. It's a constant for everyone on this planet. It's funny, how as humans, with change occurring on a daily basis, how resistant we are to it. I have never met anyone who likes to change or who views it for what it is, a chance to learn and grow, a chance to experience new ideas, and meet new people. Change is scary, I know. It makes us doubt ourselves. Sometimes, we anticipate a change in our life and, at other times, it forces itself upon us.
Either way, it causes stress in our lives. We, humans, are creatures of habit. We feel secure when we have a routine, a tried and true plan that we work every day. On a deeper level, though, there's that nagging feeling that we are bored, or that we're not doing the things we need to do to be happy. We get attached to the possessions in our lives and even the people, feeling the need to keep everything the same or else we should lose either one. Without being aware of it, these attachments cause just as much stress on our bodies as the change does. We fear being our true selves, even if we are unhappy living the way that we do.
Recently, change has been thrust into my own life. I did not see it coming. You see, my husband and I have been working at our jobs for the last twenty years, working our way to a nice salary, insurance, vacations and so forth. I saw it as a blessing every day. There was always that fear that one day, it could be all taken away. We worked for a decent company, that valued our work and thought highly of us. I felt secure, or as secure as I could. Then one day, we had a company meeting and it was announced to us that the company had been sold to a bigger corporation. I was insecure with the decision, but I felt that our experience would benefit us and we would be valued for it. As a matter of fact, that's what was told to us by the larger company, at another meeting not long after. I couldn't have been more wrong. The larger company planned to turn over all the existing management to make room for people from their own company. Pressures were consistently placed on the old management until it was not worth the effort of trying to hold on any longer. It just seemed so unfair. But, such is life.
I got another job, at a quarter of what I was getting paid, but in a less stressful environment with kinder people. My husband, on the other hand, has taken it a lot harder. He's gone through a period of depression and low self worth. I try talking to him about it, but he hides it and denies his feelings. He does not want to worry me any more than necessary. He loves my views on life and how I manage to lift everyone around me up, no matter the circumstances. He feels that if he shares his feelings with me, he will taint that somehow.
I share all this with you, because I feel that your perspectives on life are important to the way that you handle the changes that occur on a daily basis. I, as you all are probably aware, follow the path of the witch. I do not expect things to just fall into place in my life. I know that I am responsible for every decision that I make and every outcome that follows. It would be easy to blame someone else for my bad turn of luck. I will admit, I am human, I was angry for a time. I felt like I had unfairly been dealt a bad hand. I felt that my Goddess and guardians had left me. I felt that I had done all that they had asked of me and that they had abandoned me when I had needed them most. In time, when things began to settle around me, I realized, that they were still there. They had never left. The stress and anxiety that was swirling in my own mind had made me blind to them and deaf to their guidance. When I finally settled the chaos, I realized that they were trying to tell me that this loss was indeed a blessing in disguise for my family and me. How? Let me explain.
I have never been a person that is too caught up with money. I have worked at my previous job for approximately twenty years. It was only about ten years ago that I accepted my invitation from the Goddess to walk this path. I went to work every day. I used every opportunity I could to make the lives of those I came in contact with better, offering words of wisdom, a compliment, and sometimes helping them pay for something they desperately needed. I never thought about losing my job. I was doing the Goddess's work.
Slowly, over time, after much reading and soul searching, I came to the realization that I, myself, didn't really need much to live. I talked to my husband about the fact that I could live in pretty simple, if not primitive, surroundings, that we didn't need all the trappings of the life in which we lived. He always nodded his head in agreement, but I could see that he did not agree. Part of me was afraid that if we ever lost our means of paying for all of the trappings, I might lose my husband. There was also the part of me that told me that if anything ever happened and we did find ourselves in different circumstances and he should leave, he had never really loved me at all. I knew this to be true. Another mistake that we, as humans make, is to place material comforts and money above the ones we love.
Of course, there are basic necessities that you need to live, I understand these. I'm talking about the large houses, the expensive cars, the computers, and the 60-inch plasma TVs in every room with 1000 channels and Internet access. We tend to get lost in the thought that if we don't have all of these things, then we have failed, and we feel hollow inside. It's hard to change our thinking and our way of living, especially when it has become so easy. Sometimes we feel so lost that we lose sight of what is most important to us, our loved ones. With these types of changes lifestyle changes are necessary. Lashing out or leaving our loved ones is not the answer. Facing ourselves and learning to live with less is.
Discovering what is most important to us is probably what these changes are all about. People find themselves bored if they don't have all of these items to stimulate their minds. Personally, I think this is a mistake. Think of what people did before the invention of all of this technology. They talked to people. They got to know their neighbors and their own kids. We don't do this anymore. We don't actually talk to other people. We fill the time by finding other things we like to do. We find hobbies that we enjoy or have forgotten.
Think back to when you were a child. Think of the things you did then that brought you joy. How did we stray so far from our true selves?
Following the path of the old ways, I had learned that life is actually much more fulfilling when we have less. I knew this on a deeper level. And so it came to pass. A job that paid for the basic life, but gave me the time I needed to spend with the ones that I love. In the stress free days that have followed I have come to learn to sing and dance. I have found the time to take up reading again, just for the fun of it. I have found the peacefulness of gardening, stroking the fur of our cats, of hearing my children laugh. I was doing these things before, but there was just not the level of attentiveness and gratitude that I now felt. I have found the time to cook and to bake. I laugh. I laugh. I had not realized how little of that I had done.
I also discovered that all along the Goddess had still been there, like a beacon shining a light to help me find my footing on my path. It never was really dark; I had just shut my eyes in fear. Fear of the changes and fear of losing the attachments to the things that didn't really matter anyway. The change may have been an unwelcome surprise, but a lesson that I needed to learn. One, I feel, others in my family needed to learn as well. All along I had had this feeling that this new company had done me a favor, something that I was unwilling to do for myself. In reality, I may not have wanted to listen, but it was the truth. I have learned to answer my true calling, to teach others.
So, I share this with you, so you may learn. Change is never easy, but it is necessary. My old life may be gone, but I will not dwell on this, for I cannot change it. I will openly build myself a new life, based on my beliefs that life is so much happier when it is simple. As for my family, they are still not as far on the journey as I am. They are still struggling with the understanding. That is where I come in. I will continue to hold out my hand and beckon them to walk with me. I will help them to understand through learning to let go of what was. These last ten years of learning for me will be a blessing for others. It is up to me to teach them how to handle changes and how to view them as blessings and not curses. I think that later in life, they will be grateful for this lesson. I will teach them to let go of the old, to accept the things in life that cannot be changed, and to build a better future, based on the things that make their souls sing.
I think that this is what it is all about anyway. Hearing the music that makes your soul sing and dancing the dance, even if others cannot hear it.
Love to all my fellow witches,
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