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Author: Tom
Posted: March 1st. 2009
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Not to say that my wife is a desperate housewife but at times she can scare me, but that I have found out is one of the many joys of marriage. Somehow through no act of my own she has lured me into watching and somehow becoming caught up in the reruns of Desperate Housewives.

What I have started to notice is the similarities between this totally dysfunctional TV show and real life. What does this really say about us as a society? How in times as desperate as the ones we face can we so easily turn our backs on each other? How can we as a people find it so easy to be so mean and so cruel to each other?

These are tough questions that I feel I am in no way competent enough to even begin to solve, so what is the reason for me attempting to write this article about mean people?

Well, it�s like this�mean people suck.

Do mean people even know that they are mean, that�s a hard question. I feel that many people end up harboring a mean streak that they don�t even know they have. Let me give you a quick example, recently I accepted a new job from an individual I had done some freelance work for. He in turn sold his company a month after I was hired.

Though the new owners professed to like me and the quality of work I did and talked a wonderful line about how I would be a welcome asset to their organization I found myself on the receiving end of a pink slip. All the time I did keep getting the standard, �because of our strong Christian beliefs we are a forgiving organization.�

One thing I have learned is that when the strong beliefs speech starts to be used is that there is some bad juju brewing. This is not to say that all Christians are bad, it�s just that the bad ones seem to talk the loudest.

Sometimes though from meanness comes some good, take for example the recent hurricane season. From the meanness that stemmed from the handling of the whole Hurricane Katrina mess some years back came a new compassion from our leaders in the face of these new disasters. Now maybe they did overreact a bit, but then what would you except from our government. Maybe someday the government will learn that a little can go a long way, but that is a whole other matter all together. If I am not even competent enough to answer these questions then how would you expect me to answer questions about our Government? But looking over the last paragraph I see that I have somewhat side stepped the issue at hand. Maybe I should explore the possibilities of political work.

Now back to meanness, I am one of those people who harbored a mean streak and I did not even know I had it. For years I chose to self medicate myself on a daily basis with medications that were never intended for daily use. This is not to say that these medications don�t have a place in society, but I won�t attempt to touch that one because of the fear of really upsetting the status quo.

What happened to me was that I screwed so many things up in my life that I started to fool myself into believing that it was everyone else except me that was responsible for all the heartache in my life. The more I lied to myself the meaner I became, the meaner I became the more I screwed up in my life. This little mistake only took me twenty plus years and countless friends and opportunities to figure out.

After I did I came to the realization that I was wrong and decided to let go of the meanness that was making me hate myself. I noticed that things started to fall into place for me.

This is what I started to notice about people including myself who were once mean but are no longer. That they are now happy people who don�t let the little and insignificant things in life upset them. That�s why when I suffered the loss of the above-mentioned job I got over it without much residual effect.

There were a few days of being upset and a few in the heat of the moment words said in anger but I did not wallow in a stupor of hate and in turn screw up more things. I pulled myself back up and got on with life, went back to the job I had left to accept the one I was dismissed from, I am fortunate that I work in an industry where that is possible.

I know that had I still harbored the hate I had for myself and society at one time I would have never been able to recover as I did, instead I would have just used it as a launching pad for more self induced madness.

So what is the point of this rant, that�s hard to say and you know what? I don�t think I will provide that answer. If I have done what I set out to do then just maybe someone who reads this article will see that perhaps we all have some control over meanness. I really do feel that the majority of people in this world are not mean, but as I said earlier the loudest voices come from the meanest people.

If you are not a person that at one time has harbored a mean streak then good for you but if you are a person who harbored a mean streak at one time and saw the error of their ways then even better for you. It�s those of us who have made the mistake of meanness that tend to want the world to change for the good. I guess it�s just that when your eyes open to your mistakes you start to look at the bigger picture.

So if you are a mean person ask yourself this, are you really happy and if not what can you do to change. If you are a happy person and meet a mean person then try to do what you would hope everyone would do, lend an ear, provide a different insight, who knows your kindness could be the cure for their meanness.

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