Sexuality in Todays’ Society
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Author: Whistling Squirrel [a WitchVox Sponsor]
Posted: July 10th. 2011
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The gift of the written word has truly been shared with me of which I am very grateful. In light of recent events, I have been given the opportunity to share with you my gift and discuss my views and feelings on a subject that seems to plague our society.
With America’s cultural views on sexuality, it’s no wonder our youth are so confused. The typical parent adds to this confusion because they have no real clear answers to such a topic of conversation. The running joke of course is to pass the talk of the “birds and the bees” to the other parent.
With the rise of awareness and spirituality, people are taking a different approach to these sensitive subjects. Our Pagan ancestors views on the subject were quite different because of the circumstances of the time and the connection with the natural ways of life. With life expectancy very short, having children as soon as you could bare them was a matter of survival. In early religious views, sexuality was actually thought to be sacred and brought one closer to divinity. The ritual of Horus Gammas or The Great Rite was a sacred act of lovemaking performed in Jewish temples by clergy and in-temple priestesses. This facilitated their connection with God and made it possible to receive revelations. Today’s social views on sex have been tainted with the more recent religious thoughts that it is a shameful act and that women, in league with the devil, perpetuate this sin. Sex is something to be pushed into the dark recesses of our minds, something that is thought to be dirty and sinful. The Puritans of early America went so far as to have sex entirely clothed, that the pleasures of the flesh was the work of Satan.
What prompted this subject? I was recently doing some work at a friend’s place and had to take my stepson. He turned thirteen this year and is experiencing those changes of life that solicits the “birds and the bees” talk. Our friends have a young daughter about the same age, going through those same changes. The day’s work was nearly finished when one of the parents of the young lady told me we need to have a talk with the children. They had gone to another room to play and were left alone for only a couple of minutes. When they were checked on, they were found in a compromising situation. No, all the clothes were still on, thank the Gods, but this put a quicker end to the days work in order to handle the talks that needed to be made. While we were trying to get the truth from each of the children, I felt it in our best interest to separate the two and talk to my stepson in another room. I knelt to his level, while he sat crying and asked for his account of what had happened.
Bringing my views of sexuality to a level that a young child could understand was difficult at best. I told him that what he was doing was not something to be ashamed or frightened of; it is as natural as breathing. It is human nature to act on our natural impulses. The only difference is that we as humans are capable of reason and restraint and must be responsible for those actions that could harm yourself and others. I placed enormous stress on the responsibility of his actions and the dangers of what he could have done. Then of course letting him know that this is how babies are brought into this world and the responsibilities that come with raising a child. Going out to play with friends would be replaced with the changing of smelly diapers, feeding, cleaning up the puke, doctor’s visits, the typical child rearing chores. Not to mention the fact that where is all this money going to come from for all these things. He would be a child raising a child; not a good scenario.
Getting all that I thought I could get between sobs, I came to the conclusion that it was experiential; meaning that they were curious and the moment got the best of them. We then proceeded back to the room where the other parents were trying to pull out what happened. As he sat on my knee, still crying into my shoulder, we did get what we wanted from the young girl. She confirmed our assumptions of curiosity. What I find most disturbing is that both children were so very frightened, not particularly of what they had done, but what kind of trouble from the parents they may be in for. I think it surprised them that what they were in trouble for was not what they had done, but for giving us such a hard time to get what had happened out of them in the first place. With the parents of both children being Pagan and holding similar views on sexuality, it eliminated the embarrassment that may have come from a situation like that had either parent had dissimilar views.
It is my view that if a positive trust is instilled with the children at an early age, that trust would make them more at ease about talking to us as parents about subjects such as sexuality. Teaching the karmic law, be it the three fold, ten fold or what ever term you wish to use, and that you are responsible for your actions that affect all others around you. As Pagan parents, we have a responsibility to teach these values of respect to our children. They are our future, and if the human race is to evolve spiritually, they must carry that respect that is taught them into their daily lives. We can’t be true to ourselves as sexual human beings if we deny our natural instincts and feelings, but with the responsibility of being a proper person, we can overcome the dogmatic view of our own sexuality and bring it out of those dark places. Shed light on one of the most beautiful and sacred acts two people can share with each other.
Make Love Not War…not so comical a saying anymore, but makes ever so much sense if we wish to continue growing and learning of God’s and Goddess’s love.
HP Whistling Squirrel
Black Forest Tradition of Wicca
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