Coming Out of the Broom Closet
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Author: Lola Stardust
Posted: January 22nd. 2016
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I sit down with some friends and we start catching up since it's been a long time since we all last saw each other. We talk about our families, jobs, significant others, etc. and I take a deep breath. "I have something I wanted to talk to you guys about." They are all ears. I go on and tell them that I am a witch and explain to them the journey I have embarked on. And of course, this group of friends is completely on board, which I knew they would be, for me and this group of friends have all been witches for quite some time. We just never really talked about it. And it felt great to just talk about it with them, tobe out in the open. I started with this group of friends first because I knew they would be the easiest.
Maybe others have had an easier time coming out of the broom closet. But I know that there are certain people in my life who just won't get it. Like my parents. I'm 42 years old and still afraid of telling my parents my religious choice. My folks have always been mostly supportive of my life choices. I remember them always being a bit perplexed about me being a "fruit fly" and in high school they tilted their heads a bit when my "Goth" friends would come pick me up so we could go the ‘all ages’ dance clubs and smoke cloves and dance to bands like The Cure, or Love and Rockets...or even better yet, Depeche Mode and The Smiths. But I digress..
My parents are Christian. I never went to church with my parents, which I found odd, but was like "whatever". But I was always taught the Ten Commandments and even picked up The Bible and read it. It was a good read, but I had a lot of questions, and when it got to the point that I had questions my parents couldn't answer, they advised me to "find my own religion" by telling me to read up on different beliefs and such. That has always surprised me, even to this day, how unintentionally cool they were about that...
So, I began my spiritual journey when I was about 10 or 11.... and to make a long story short, I came back to Wicca after so many years ... and I am happy. And ready to tell my parents. Sort of.
So I've been practicing on my friends, So far, so good. I did get one strange response from a Christian couple we hang out with (our kids play together while the dads talk computer speak and the moms drink wine. Good times) . The dad said "Well, no problem but we do have a stake out in the back and lighter fluid if things get weird. Ha ha ha." I found that a bit bothersome, but I know he was trying to make light of possibly an uncomfortable situation for himself. When I advised him that Wiccans do not disrespect other religions and everybody has the right to worship the God or Goddess they choose, he did say "But that's the thing; I know that Our God is the only God..." Again, I did not say anything because I know that sometimes people say things because they do not see outside of the box.
My older brother and sister I told in so many words. My sister asked me about a necklace I was wearing, which was a pentacle with a Goddess type figure entwined within it. I told her it was one of my "witchy" necklaces and she said, "Oh yeah, you love that stuff, don't you!" I was happy with that conversation. My brother (who is very conservative and Christian) I decided to tell via his friends as we were all sitting around a fire pit and drinking wine. My brother was sitting right there. If he overheard, he hasn't said anything yet.
My dad and I are friends on Facebook and I post a lot of Wiccan stuff on there and he has not said anything either...and my mom, well, I just haven't built up the nerve because she will be the hardest one. Although I can talk to her about most things in my life, she is very old fashioned in her beliefs when it comes to sex and marriage and religion...and what she doesn't understand, she just dismisses as "Satanic" or "Slutty" Lol!! I love my mom and have learned to deal with her opinions although I have always been the one to challenge her beliefs by the way I have always lived my life.
So, I guess really, I have come out of the broom closet to my parents in a way that is easy for them to understand, and yet not have to really get into conversation with them. And I am okay with that. Again, as old fashioned as my parents are, they have always quietly, and sometimes not so quietly, supported my decisions in life. I am lucky that I do have a wonderful support system from my husband and my two sons. Telling my boys was probably even easier then telling my supportive friends.
My oldest son who is 11, I was telling him about a BBQ we were all going to attend as a family. It was a ritual BBQ celebrating Lughnasadh and I explained to my oldest that we would be partaking in a religious celebration but this religion was not like the ones he was used to (his father and I are no longer together but very good friends. He and his wife are very Christian and take my son to church occasionally, which I do not mind) My oldest asked what kind of religion and I explained it was nature based and about the seasons and having our own personal magic, etc. He then goes "Mom, are you a witch?" and I said yes. He then said, "Cool", and that was that. He is very smart and sees the altar in our home and our house witch we have displayed. Her name is Calliope Catastrophe and has been a totem in our home for the last 4 years and I have told my children she watches over our home and protects it. They were fine with that.
I have a 6-year-old son who doesn't even blink an eye when he goes to open rituals with me. And my husband told me he always knew I was a witch when we began dating 10 years ago and was never even bothered by it. So again, having the support my family is amazing. And when I do tell a different friend in my life, they are not surprised, so maybe coming out of the broom closet really has been an easy transition for me because I have been a witch for a very long time, I just didn't always realize it. But apparently, a lot of my friends knew before I knew...
I am one lucky witch.
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