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Author: Lola Stardust
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I have been thinking about death lately, and not because anyone close to me is dying, but because I think about it ...when our mortality is brought to our front and center, when life throws us a curve ball and puts us in a rut, I just think about it.
I guess I'm dark at times, but I feel there is nothing wrong with thinking death. I have children so I have to think about it more because as they get older, my husband and I get older. Who will take care of them if we die while they are still children? What message or lessons of mine that I passed on to them will they carry the rest of their lives? How will they reflect upon their memories of me as a parent? So, yeah, I think about it.
But what I really think about is Summer Land, or my next life and then I apply the things I get from those thoughts to my current life.
I feel I am lucky to know that I will see my loved ones again, and not in some place above the clouds with a gate and a gatekeeper, but during another lifetime, or possibly, in another realm. This in turn makes me really double check and make sure that the seeds I plant in this life are healthy and full of life. Those seeds will be my “bread crumbs” in my next life. Sounds like I have been thinking about seeds and breadcrumbs... bird food!! ha, ha..
Anyway, this path I walk, this religion I live daily, gives me these wonderful feelings about life and death. For the first time, I am not afraid of death. For me, for others. Yes, of course I will be sad and I don't like to think about it happening to others, but I know it does... and by being accepting of my own mortality and being okay with it, it trains me to be okay with death in general. Is this morbid that I am writing about this? Maybe to some, but to me, it isn't. Death is only a rebirth, a renewal, a transformation that is, believe it or not, beautiful. I haven’t had a grasp on death until I chose the Wiccan way... and what a gift that is.
I feel lucky to be at some sort of peace with it...of course, that song and dance may change when someone close to me passes away, but I really think it won't. It is comforting, and isn't that what we all need in times of sorrow? Comfort and caring and trust and hope.
I know other religions offer this kind of hope and comfort, but I always feel at a price. Like there is a list of rules you have to follow in order to have that feeling of comfort. I cannot live like that, always fearing that my mistakes will count against me ever seeing my loved ones again. (Just like I don't accept the Christian view that all gays will go to hell. Absolutely not!) Who are we to judge, and who are we to put someone in charge that lives on a cloud top, taking notes, passing judgment? What a terrible way to live. In fear. That is why perhaps I feared death before. I allowed those beliefs to enter my head and mind-rape me into guilt. Again, that is no way to live.
When I discuss things like this with my Coven leaders, we bring up how Wicca allows you to think for yourself and to develop your own ideals on morals and ethics. The path of Wicca doesn't insult us declaring: “Here is a list. Follow this list. And maybe, just maybe, you will have a wonderful afterlife”.
But I digress-
A Wiccan High Priestess recently told me something beautiful. She advised me, “To fulfill love, you must be reborn in the same time and place, and remember, and find each other again. To be reborn, you must first die, and so be ready. To die, you must first be born. To be born, there must be Love. “
I completely understand this, and even though these words were not passed on to me meaning physical death, it can be applied to that as well. To truly understand this in our mortal lives will make the transformation much easier when that time comes for us to move on to the other side.
I believe that in understanding that you can have “spiritual deaths” many times in your life, and to know that you can go through many “rebirths and renewals” because of that, is the key to understanding physical death. I am at peace in my life when bad things happen, because to me, it is a transformation. It is a way for me to go through the door and come out on the other side stronger and renewed. This prepares me for when physical death comes to me, or to ones I love.
Of course, when that happens, I may be singing a different tune, but I really doubt it. I truly feel that I am okay with passing on. I truly feel this path I walk only makes me stronger, in this life, and in other lives. I am learning every day, especially lately, about rebirth and renewal and about how life's obstacles and challenges are lessons. With each lesson I learn, I get closer and closer to truly understanding my life and it's purpose. The “circle of life”, if you will, is truly amazing.
Of course, tears will still be shed, and questions will still be asked, faiths will be tested and names taken in vain, but to be at peace with my life -- and death for that matter -- is a gift I never asked for, but received. A lesson I thought I would never understand, but now, I do. Do I know the secret of life? No, but I really don’t want to or need to because I think I understand the secret of death.
What a gift!
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